Curiously Curative Publicans

The "cure" for BOREDOM, is CURIOSITY.

There is no "cure" for CURIOSITY.

Acta Mathematica (QUANTUM CHAOS)!

Three Laws of Discovery

Law One: (Implied by statements ...disputing priority, usually in response to what is seen as the neglect of certain Russian mathematicians. Of course, this Law is self-referential.), i.e.

"Discoveries are rarely attributed to the correct person."

Law Two: (Prompted by the observation that the sequence of antecedents under 'Law One' [above] seems quite endless.), i.e.

"Nothing is ever discovered for the first time."

Law Three: (aka: Whitehead’s Law) Quoted by Max Dresden, Dutch physicist, historian and sociologist of science, teacher and lecturer [1918-1997] at the beginning of his biography of Hendrik "Hans" Anton Kramers, Dutch theoretical physicist [1894-1952], i.e.

"Everything of importance has been said before (by someone who did not discover it)."

Chaos Theory

"Chaos Theory" comes from the fact that -- the systems that the theory describes are apparently disordered, but chaos theory is really about finding the underlying order in apparently random data.

[ Rigorous formulas hamper understanding! Let the chaos never end, nor begin? -Ed. ]

Determinism

"Determinism" is the philosophical belief that every event or action is the inevitable result of preceding events and actions. Thus, in principle at least, every event or action can be completely predicted in advance, or in retrospect. One of the important innovations that created modern science around the year 1500 A.D. was the idea that the laws of the material universe could be understood meaningfully only by expressing physical properties as quantified measurements, that is, in numerical terms and not just in words. Having understood what is meant by determinism, initial conditions, and uncertainty of measurements, you can now learn about dynamical instability, which to most physicists is the same in meaning as chaos. In a chaotic system, using the laws of physics to make precise long-term predictions is impossible, even in theory. Making long-term predictions to any degree of precision at all would require giving the initial conditions to infinite precision.

Law Four: (Did I announce just three? AKA, Robert's Law -- Enigmatic discovery is always indeterminant.) i.e.

"If you accept Chaos, one cannot be entirely sure that Chaos will accept you."

Me Thinks (giggle).

Permission vs Forgiveness

It is easier to first ask for permission, than it is to get forgiveness for (selfishly) helping one's self.

Me Thinks.

Legaliz Couplez

In a land where half of all first-marriages end in divorce... (often sending thereby, at very least two lives into the legal throws and challenges of personal chaos); In a land where almost 70% of our beloved children do not live with BOTH of their biological parents; In a land of political correctness; In a land of poignant, often idiotic double-standards (or no standards at all); In the land of legalized shenanigans, authored by men and women from all walks of life, and of all colors and creeds; In the land of double-speak (where everything is no longer "labelled" or "called" -- what it really is)...

Where we have adults whose lives are married, bonded by civil unions, or who have formed defacto (albeit non-legitimized) gay couples...

Where we have the never married, single, legally separated, or the divorced single, widows and widowers...

Where we have those who are "dating", "cheating", "two-timing", "sneaking", or "hiding", and "lying", (or doing nothing at all). Sexual, a-sexual, "bi", gay, queer, and straight. The old and young...

Societally ...what should we aptly (and "correctly") call: a sexual, middle-ground, male-female couple who spend their free time together; and who are clearly much more than just "boyfriend" or "girlfriend"; where (lest the naive have any illusions), the two are also lovers; not 'always' living together (not truly within a co-habitation); consider their "spin up" to be permanent; yet have remained (thus far) unmarried; and live geographically separate much of the time?

I am open to suggestions. Please spare me all traditional religious yap (you'd be wasting your time and mine). Here are some of my thoughts:

"Co-Mingleds"?
"Trust-eds"?
"All, but not Nothings"?
"Intimate Best Friends"?
"Canoodlers"?
"Happies"?

Woe is me (and how silly can I get)? Your suggestions please.

The US of E?

The United States of Entertainment?
Pearl Harbor Day, 2006

We ought to be ashamed. So, let's admit to it. We are most definitely, the "United States of Entertainment". American culture has a huge influence on the world, especially the Western world. The development of the arts and entertainment in the United States (music, movies, dance, architecture, literature, poetry and the visual arts) has been marked by a tension between two historical sources of inspiration: European sophistication and Domestic originality.

Frequently, the best American artists manage to harness both sources. But some don't.

Me Thinks that red flags should be raised, and alarm bells should be sounding -- whenever Britney Spears manages to trump the War in Iraq on TV News. The news networks seem to air more minutes about her latest scandal, than America's biggest money-sink -- the ongoing Iraqi death-trap. It's killing our boys (and the girls next door). Everyone has seen Britney's crotch -- so now what?

What we want to see is ENTERTAINMENT -- not media coverage accorded to a war in Viet Nam, the Gulf, or in Iraq. What Americans want to see, is Britney.

Should we watch the TV war in IRAQ: tribal violence, sectarian murder, political collapse, more of the "US of E's" involement -- apparently, over their ocean of oil, but under the guises of our latest Red, White, & Blue liberation? Or...

Do we prefer to watch the TV woes of BRITNEY: marriage, pregnancy, baby, divorce, sexy moves, scant clothing, missing underwear, and crotch-shots?

Frankly, Britney's got what all women have got -- been there, seen that. Americans would do themselves a favor to pay more attention to the important issues! Would those who have been "entertained" care to join me on the front lines -- someplace real and inhospitalble?

Perhaps that choice will be made FOR you -- once our latest war arrives at your doorstep?

Incrimination of Non-discrimination

Terrorists don't discriminate. They'll KILL anyone.

Me Thinks.

Have a Good Day!

To have a "Good" day (or not) every day -- is a choice.

YOUR choice! Choose well.

Selfishness in Relationships

Just how selfish are you? Speak of "Relationship Truth" with yourself:
What fool will ever put YOU "first", when you put the FOOL "second"?

Me no fool, Me Thinks.

Two Littles, Too Much

Everything has its wonders ...even waiting in silence. And I've learned that whatever state I may be in -- to be content. For a happier life cannot be without its shades of gray, and the word "happiness" might lose its meaning, were it not balanced by the waiting (for) the wanting. It is far better to take things with equanimity (as they come along) following periods of patience. When one adds a little, to a little (then do it again) soon, two littles become too much. Genius knows eternal patience -- and that all things come at the appointed hour.

Never Done ~ Sometimes Do

To get what we've never had, we must sometimes do what we've never done.

Me Thinks

Artificial Intelligence

Artificial intelligence is no match for nuratal stidutipy!

Tonic of Wilderness

To live in the ways ...to which I aspire, you must feel the need for the Tonic Of Wilderness -- desiring to sojourn in places of great Peace and Peace of mind -- where Mother Nature takes you into the comfort of her folded arms, so that you may feel wanted, needed, a part of it all -- and loved, forever young.

Does anyone ever get enough love... ?

A Task So Difficult?

Is loving me properly (like living your life), a task SO difficult as to have never been attempted before today?

Me Wonders.

When LOVE becomes TOXIC !

Virtuous sexual behavior is the most important quality in the woman whom I could admire -- whose love and body I would desire. For a woman's betrayal of her man is just as serious as a man's betrayal of his woman. But perhaps worse? Because she has her virtue to lose, and a woman such as she (whose company I did aspire to share), must have many virtues!

A woman's betrayal causes a mounting of his rage. And his pain (that terrible hurt within) is voiced as his anger. It impels a truly GOOD man to endure her violence of the heart -- with his mind, and this occurs without any violence of the hand and fist.

Thus, his complaint is contained, expressed as anger. The sage will see that his courage (over such containment) is actually a proof by demonstration, of his wounded love...

For her!

Her opposition to his sincere gifts of love and her disdain of his simple needs is perhaps merely a semantic distinction (but ones that must be explored). By juxtaposing (contextually) her sexual obsessions and her withdrawal from the relationship (through her lies, and under the many guises of the feminine way) -- at least he can retain his dignity, identify, his innocence while amplifying her guilt by doing nothing -- as he continues to love...

Her!

But when a betrayal occurs -- LOVE dies and becomes TOXIC!

Me Feels.

Pinning a tail on the Donkey vs Elephantitis

Whatever the results tonight, it won't have been the Republican campaign that did it...

The Republicans will have won or lost this election a long time ago. If they hold onto the Senate, it will be because the redistricting levees built by Republicans ("over" the past six years) were strong enough to withstand the backlash ...that their failed policies have built ("under" the past six years). If they get ousted, it will be for running the country into the ground. We'll find out soon enough -- whether the Anti-Bush hurricane is a Category 3, 4, or 5 storm -- and whether it lost any force passing by last week's temporary low: Massachusetts Senator, John F. Kerry's "Kerry Carnage". He was out in California, tells a joke -- it backfires. Now, he's walking around saying that he botched the joke, adding that he was trying to tell a joke about Bush. I'm telling you, that guy could lose elections he's not even in. Then, President Bush warned Democrats not to celebrate victory too early. Yeah. Right. Lest we forget, that talk is coming from the guy that put up the 'Mission Accomplished' sign three years ago.If Republicans survive the storm, it won't be because they saw it coming. If they lose, it will be because they had it coming.

Team Bush and their Congressional enablers have enmired the nation in unceasing war, debt, and scandal. It's tipping-point time: hopefully, the Dems will rock the House and roll the Senate. But I'm willing to eat this: the House for now, the Senate later.

It's gonna be a "doggie eat dog day, all wrapped-up in a doggie-bag -- a free lunch".

Me Thinks.

Right Questions

What is important in life, isn't knowing if you have all the right answers -- it's knowing if the all of the questions were ... (right).

(Thanks for sharing HK...)

"The Greening of Americans"

Money is the root of all Wealth.(What did you think that I was going to say?)

"Wealth is the product of man's capacity to think, and the barometer of a society's virtue." -Ayn Rand

On Money & Wealth - Russian born American novelist Ayn Rand is originator of the philosophy of "Objectivism". You can learn more about her life and philosophy at the Ayn Rand Institute. "Francisco's Money Speech", an excerpt from "Atlas Shrugged", Copyright ©1957 Ayn Rand. Reprinted [see link] with permission from the Estate of Ayn Rand:
http://www.congregator.net/topical/money-speech.htm

Part-II "I want a Ring & Nearby Living"

See also, Part-I [below]

It seems there's a bevy of women who hanker-after a wedding ring as a top priority. Why? Because they simply want the wedding? Perhaps they're just obsessed with the venue -- the dress, the flowers, the food, and the glamour of it all?

Well maybe. But maybe it's ALL about money?

Have they forgotten about the true values of marriage? What happened to love, commitment and "till death do us part"? Sadly they are sometimes so caught up in the notion of personal security and safety and affluence -- that they also get caught planning the fairytale wedding long before they've even met "the one" -- "Prince Charming" on a white horse (in a convenient parking lot).

Holy Tiara!

Ride him Cowgirl!

These days, and everywhere you look -- couples are tying the knot, and the hotties are cashing in their 'tits'. Oops. 'Scuse me ... their 'c-h-i-p-s'.

Women are sporting bling-bling rings, snazzy see-through dresses (I recall reading that Nicole Kidman's was worth a reported $100K. SWEET! ). All want to revel around and around, waltzing into dreamland by dancing like a "Princess for a Day".

So why the wedding obsession?

Perhaps it's all thanks to a mix of little-girl desires, savvy marketing and the lure of a Tiffany-esque ring, but either way, it seems the desperate desire for a wedding (felt by so many modern women) is spiraling out of control.

In the film "Muriel's Wedding", Muriel, a 22-year-old girl obsessed by marriage, lies, steals and then marries a man she doesn't love -- just to experience the transformative thrill of marching down the aisle. And it seems that despite women being more assertive in the Boardrooms of the World (and also in the bedroom), this sort of behavior is still running rife. (OK, where's my rifle? -ed)

While I agree that there's certainly nothing wrong with a bit of fantasy (what little girl doesn't dream of being a bride at age 8?). But what's at the root of such motivation?

Is it: To love, honor and obey, in sickness and in health, till death do them part?

Or is it: To have the best darn wedding possible?

Or is it; Simply the lure of flowers, showers, dresses and of course -- a HUGE diamond ring?

"Oh, definitely the ring," scoffed one of my male friends (who admitted that he was "forced" to buy a HUGE ring for his ex-fiancée). She gave him the dreaded ultimatum:

"Marry me, or else we are at a 'dead end', and I will (unstated: sleep with someone else)!"

"She kept demanding a big ring," he said. He added, "But once I proposed and she'd gotten 'what' she wanted, it was like she no longer cared for our relationship. She certainly wasn't interested in me anymore. It was like all she wanted was a big fancy wedding, a big fancy dress and a big fancy ring to show off to all her non-married friends. The actual meaning of marriage was lost on her. When it came down to our relationship, it felt like it meant nothing to her." In his case, he called it quits "before it was too late". (He didn't get the ring back. -ed).

In our culture obsessed with weddings, it comes as no surprise that reality TV shows hit our airwaves like swarms of bees. Titles like: "Suzie's getting Married". The show aims to marry-off an insecure female nick-named, "Sue". Her dress is chosen; the venue is booked; the caterers have their menus; and the drinks are decided on. There's only one tiny little catch: Suzie opted to 'dead end' the man of her dreams.

Yep, there's no groom and no Good man in sight. That's why she's got the whole team at (Focker) Family Channel behind her -- to find her one such groom (same religion of course) -- and they've got just a few more years do it, and must make sure he's who he says he is -- AND -- he has to be rich! Quite the order to fill, Me Thinks.

And while that's just fantasy on Reality Television, the trend is very, very real. Often nicknamed "Bridezillas" (AKA "Monsters"), even Oprah is on that trend-line -- devoting entire shows to women who've become so obsessed with their wedding, that the obsessions evolve towards being more important than any thoughts of actually pleasing their poor down-trodden groom-to-be.

But guys, don't fear -- because not all women are wedding-obsessed. A quick dip into the BLOG-O-Sphere found this comment from a bride-to-be: "I wish we could actually skip the wedding, go to Vegas and just get married -- like I wanted to do in the first place!

"Did I just hear a cheer of, "Amen !!!" over by the slot machines?

By so doing, the Road to Riches can be green (indeed).

To close, and as for fitting advice? Neither a gambler... nor a lover be.

Get an appartment nearby, buy a "Mercedes Benz SL 500", drive by her house daily.

Part-I "Honeymoon Over & The Itch"

See also, Part-II [above]

What's the best part of any relationship? Ah ...the spin-up, "honeymoon" period, of course! But once the conjoined baths, public smooching, and non-stop canoodling are over, the relationship can come to a screeching halt. Someone announces a "dead end" (cul de sac).

That's when she starts to feel the itch.

According to experts, sometimes it's not merely a "rough patch" (to scratch), but THE inescapable "love crisis point" that occurs (it's a point in time when an "EXODUS" is no Book of the Bible). She is CONVINCED that the grass is sure to be greener on the other side. More often than not, the grass does all the damage. More often than not, all that is grass is NOT green. Maybe it's money, maybe it's sex (a romp in the hay), maybe it's true incompatibility -- but there's that itch.

It always gets touched by someone. (Itched.)

In the classic film "Seven Year Itch", lead man (Richard Sherman) who has been married for seven years meets 22-year-old lead lady (Marilyn Monroe). And he is petrified. Why? He had recently stumbled across a phenomenon known as the 'seven-year itch' -- the time in a relationship when a significant proportion of men and women have extra-relationship affairs. And while he doesn't succumb to scratching the itch, it seems he's not alone in feeling it.

Ah, the itch. "I felt it after just 3-years." revealed Ms. "X".

She's a self-employed professional who recently found herself placed on the outside of a three-year union by a boy friend who demands zero impropriety in the form of consistent decency and irreproachable moral behavior (at all times) -- and the total absence of abuse and violence in a home.

Well, "Now, it's alive and real.", " I will do whatever I want. It’s a free world. For both of us." (The itch.)

It was all running smoothly between the two of them, and then BAM (wambam, AKA marriage wampum?). She hit the mark and everything went pear-shaped from there.

"He broke things off due to my behavior, and things have been lousy for me ever since.", she said.

"The problem now, is that I'm petrified this will happen again, because she can't contain herself.", he said.

Research shows the median time for an enduring relationship is approximately, 7.2 years. So why all the malice at the 3-year point?

People change naturally over the years (anyone who broke off a marriage after about seven years) ought to know. Life works in cycles and everything changes (about every seven years). Suddenly, you wake up with someone that you weren't with those (few) years ago. So you need to make an effort to get to know that person again.

The itch occurs when people think 'I cant be bothered to do anything about the problems that we have to surmount, and I'm just not going to accept a mediocre relationship." (The itch.)

Yet the seventh year isn't the only blimp on the relationship radar. Oh no. Sometimes this occurs during the 6th, 5th, 4th, or even the 3rd year!

Those "love crises points" are the times (in every relationship) where things get a little unpleasant. Some relationships have more, others less. Experts (and serial "candy shop" daters), say there's the one-month itch, the one-year itch (when the honeymoon period is over and reality slowly starts to creep in), the 2-year itch (when realities surface), and the third-year itch (usually at the point where the couple is actually thinking about being together for the long haul) -- but each interval leaves couples out in the cold... shivering and stark-naked, their souls bared.

Within that three-year period, the initial euphoria has worn off and each person is getting down to the business of 'How can we be together?", "What must we do with our lives to make that possible?", "How are we going to coordinate our work and home lives to care for our children?", "Are we going to get to travel and enjoy love and life together?", "Or will it be all work, and no play?

"A girl just wants to have fun? So let's forget about the seven year conundrum for just a moment.

How do we scratch the three-year itch? After all, no-one wants the honeymoon to end after just three years, right?

Perhaps we can look to Hollywood for some answers?

In the film "The Break Up", Jennifer Aniston's character finds the perfect solution for her relationship itch. So how does she get character Vince Vaughn's attention? She opts for Brazilian bikini wax. And yes, according to my friends, it works wonders...

Have you felt it? How do you prevent the itch?

And so Bikini wax it is...

"KNOW IT ALLS"

People who THINK that they KNOW EVERYTHING, generally annoy those of us who do...
(jest jestin')