"Two Littles, Too Much"

Everything has its wonders ...even waiting in silence. And I've learned that whatever state I may be in: to be content. For a happier life cannot be without its shades of gray, and the word "happiness" might lose its meaning, were it not balanced by the waiting (for) the wanting. It is far better to take things with equanimity (as they come along) following periods of patience. When one adds a little, to a little (then do it again) soon, two littles become too much. Genius knows eternal patience - and that all things - come at the appointed hour...

Copyright ©2014 - Robert C. Kuhmann - All Rights Reserved.

"Our First" (kiss)...

"Our First"

Were our floodgates to open - were we to surrender all will to the body ...were we to find ourselves in each other's arms - fueling the fires of passion: (kiss upon kiss ...impetuous, so eager).

Might I love the smooth of thy lips and the way they fall upon mine? Would we embrace and lose all track of time? (Would every touch ...be a taste of love?)

The wanting sends a shiver down my spine (so intense is this) ...a caress so tender, as I repose my hand and heart upon thy body: (a union that makes you quiver and yearn for each next touch).

Might I love thy supple lips and the way they converge upon mine? And would we wish to join as one and lose all track of time? (Would every taste ...be the touch of love?)

 -ooOoo-

'Tis a dream of lilac and lavender, Spring showers and Summer rains... Melodies growing and blooming, to become a field of flowers or a shaft of grain. (Fragrant, vibrant, intertwined.)

Eyes searching souls, Souls searching eyes. Our lips almost met. (At last ...but wait!) Am I wandering? I can't think it (nor wish to try). For I am already kissing you - in my mind's eye. (I desire more though - for our new bond means so much.)

Think not, but follow our hearts - not as mere friends in a quiet room. Our lips almost met again. (We quickly understood that we could never survive a second kiss.)

 -ooOoo-

Once alone, I would want to make love with you - then again, and again! Tempted I would lean, a little - Tempted you would lean, a little. (And we would hear a long silence.)  Is it done?

'Twas moist, warm, sensual, soft, and sweet ...just what we wanted! (We could hear the beating of our hearts - as we listened to a longer silence.)  A blessed occurrence. 

Our first kiss!

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Both at the SAME time?

Be profoundly thoughtful, be also kind - for, one who VALUES nothing and no one, cannot be BOTH nor EITHER - at the same time.
Me Thinks

A good way to begin 2011 ?

Kick the DRAMA out!

In life, there comes a time, when a person must walk away from all the drama ...and the people who create it. Unfortunately, too often - the people who don't treat you right, are the ones who need you all the more - but many don't realize that fact; others won't ever admit to it. It's likely that those "who need you", are also the ones who will never "get it"... They will continue down the same path, needing each next "give-take victim" all the more (doing damage to that person all the while and all along the way). Is your own well being, life, and self worth worth the sacrifice? Bets are "on", that that the answer is, "no!" So, the point I wish to make is this: some people, for whatever reason: cannot be helped, comforted, or fixed.

Circumvent the whole issue. Don't go there - easier said than done, since men by nature, tend to be "fixers". However, whether that be by nature, due to nurture, foolishness, self loathing, or from within a victim mentality - some people who "need", are simply not able to adequately receive the help they are given. In that case, the "helper" has no choice but to move on - as that other person is a lost cause - and the damage to self (to the helper) will likely circumvent any and all help given.

Kapish? Surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad people. Focus on the good people. Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. I shall continue to love mine (those who treat me right)! And I am going to give everyone else the boot...

The following people are "getting the boot" (written in invisible ink - not to protect the guilty, but to protect myself from the DRAMA that would ensue):
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Think about it... 

Who would you add to your own "list of the lost"?

New Year's Resolution ?

For 2011, I propose this "New Year's Resolution" to all readers: 'make relationships your first priority ... and consumption the last.' Decide: WHO? and WHAT? to VALUE. Choose: WHO? and WHAT? to HONOR. Such are alternatives. All take-form as: thought, words, or deeds. A belief in all that is Good (its doing) will help to better our selves, our loves, and our lives. Me Thinks.

Ever notice that...

Ever notice that a THOUGHT FOR THE DAY - is best pondered, longer?  Or that COMMON SENSE - is neither a sense, nor especially common?  And that LOVE HURTS - whereas self-indulgence feels good.  Ever notice that we aren't who we THINK and SAY - until we DO? And that THE WHOLE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH - comes in pieces and is anything, but...

He will show himself great...

A human being is only interesting if that individual is in contact with Self. To trust your self, be who you are. Do what you ought to do, the way you need do it. Discover you, what you do, and trust it. If a person doesn't trust themselves, they will never trust anyone else. While you may be deceived if you trust too much, you will live in torment if you do not trust enough. For it is mutual trust - even more than mutual interest, that holds human relationships together. Our friends seldom profit us, but they make us feel safe. Marriage is a scheme to accomplish exactly that same end. To be Loved, and Love well - trust a man of Worth. Trust that man and he will be true to you; Treat him greatly, and He will show himself great. Loving well, depsite...

Good and Ideal Husband will be found...

During creation, God promised women that good and ideal husbands would be found in all corners of the world.  And then He made the earth round.

During creation, God left the free will of choice to all men. Men decided that the world is flat; and the center of the universe. Whereas most women are; and believe that they are.

(giggle)

Count UR Blessings: toughest arithmetic to master?

A good and useful memory is one that recollects every blessing of each day, whilst forgetting each tribulation. The toughest arithmetic to master is the common sense to know when or why to start or stop the counting. Prayers go up. Blessings come down. If you have been blessed with great love, value the connection ... and keep it warm.

“It is more blessed to give than to receive.” -Acts 20:35

Thoughts on COMEDY & TRAGEDY ...

The words COMEDY and TRAGEDY commonly refer to the ways in which dramatic conflicts are resolved (inside of and outside of theatre)...

Whenever a tragedy occurs, the inherent confusion cannot end until such time as everyone affected has recognized what had taken place ...and has: learned, forgiven, forgotten, and re-established (his or her) identity within a functional social group.  

Whereas a comedy typically ends within a "group celebration" -- e.g. a betrothal or wedding (accompanied by music and dance). The emphasis is on integration inside of the group. It's a recommitment to the sharing of life, together. If there has been a disruptive presence -- a source of anti-social discord, then that person typically has to reform their ways -- else be punished, or banished from all celebration by the group.

Thus, a "comic celebration" is looking forward to a more meaningful communal life, hence the ubiquitous ending for romance novels (romantic comedies) ..."and they lived happily ever after."

Me Thinks

No more questions...

People are living smaller - everywhere. The economy is bleak and it is going to deteriorate. As an optimist, I do not announce such things as idle talk. Still, I am present and a participant - grateful for the joys of life, big and small. The future is definitely going to be a challenging time.  Meanwhile, albiet that (in general) people do not choose whom they love, they may love whom they choose - and there are many ways to do that. How may I help (love) you? 

No more questions (for today)...

Thinkology of LOVE, the inevitable...

Some authors would have you believe that a good romance is the equal of a marriage of the heart and mind... (AKA "chemistry")?

A "thinkologist" however is busy at rehash, preoccupied by a "theory of everything" (on one's mind and sometimes, below one's belt).

For those of us, for whom, "thinking" is both an inevitability and a part of the daily diet... 

Picture this:

If you toss two really bright people into one room (a male, a female), and then leave them there long enough... The fundamentals of today's theory are: that they WILL mate, fall in love, and that a romance will ensue!  Alas, I've spent time in one or two rooms decorated to those precise "House Beautiful" norms. Somehow, the physical coitus never seemed to supplant or offset the, "cogito, ergo sum" (I think, therefore I am) component of the intellectual copula that was ALWAYS well underway, and first. Does such a "union" make thinkers into part-time lovers, or part-time lovers into thinkers? 

When romance reunites people who have been "thus" united, then separated, and then re-united (after a certain time), is their reunion (also), once too often?

I always try to engage my readers with a tone of sarcasm (nobody ever really believes everything I say anyway)...  Am I wrong (rhetorical)?  ;-)

This sort of amusement invites everyone to laugh at the many easy foibles of our lives and our living.  A "thinkologist" makes observations about the most rigorous, purely formulaic alternatives - as well as the unpredictable nature of LOVE.  The objective being ...to make whatever one thinks about LOVE (thereby), a joy to read (and to experience)? 

Romance is a love story told in such a way, that it appeals to men (stiffened) and it appeals to women (swollen). Love's most primitive allures engage both the naive and the jaded - from Algebraic Number Theorists, to Professional Violinists - and (likewise) all those manic enough to harbor phobias towards either endeavor.  Patience comes to the penitent...

If I'm not being funny or clever here (nor original, in a way that pulls, you the reader, "in"), then blame me - for I am the only farcical, hugely entertaining, and equally as modest author of this strangest of stories.

LOVE is a Greek Classic (and oft-times, as lyrical): "boy meets goddess"; "girl meets a god"; "boy or girl loses the other god". Along the way, the two engage in playful eros romps that out-perform the soggiest TV-soap (and) every made-for-Broadway satirical play, ever written.  Pass the hankies, to wipe my wetted eyes... 

Each of those compositions become somewhat more accursed (as entertainment) than the other (...akin to a trash-talk, romance-novel - composed for, and targeting lonely, generally rather unattractive women whom men date once, at best).  In general, men aren't into romance (no, not even the unattractive guys). 

So, as YOU read this, weep with me...

As YOU become an active THINKOLOGIST yourself...

Soon enough, there will be thunderbolts raining down from your own Mount Olympus, as the gods drink themselves into a carefree stupor on cheap sex ...and cheaper wine.

Align yourself to "thinkology".

Save CIVILIZATION as we never knew it! Lock yourself up in an empty room with someone who thinks the way you do. Do it today!  It's the cerebral version of, "getting laid".

There is a spiritual teacher who states, that "if you fight against reality, you suffer". The object is to "come into acceptance".  Small words, big concept.

Difficult at times,
Me Thinks.

P.S. My next entry will be about "missed opportunities" in life...

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Me Thinks

R-U the Owner of a Broken Heart?

Sometimes it is hard to identify the dividing line - where just-caring ends, where true love begins - and (maybe) also (and exactly) what that difference REALLY is! Some of us think that we allow ourselves to love, some opt to control who not to love. Some of us have been hurt. Some, burned. Some people just seem to open their hearts more than all others. Some maintain their feelings for a lifetime. Some break-up with those they have loved, because each thought that the other, was the wrong person.

But often, we don't end the feelings nor the sense of connection which comes subsequent to our individual investments of "self" (in such dearly beloved, unique persons).

We were very busy. We were even busier. We are probably always as busy. Maybe each felt it is necessary to terminate the connection (the love, the growing friendship), or to put an "us", on hold? Whatever it was, it sometimes doesn't make much sense.

Most earn their "keep" - by becoming life-long friends - such that they're, "kept"? And doesn't love have much to do with being the BEST of friends?

The loves of one's life tend to remain (live on) in the heart (in the soul). Some loves more than others, some less. As we get older, we might opt to make a habit of telling everyone just how much they mean, and to outline what their contribution has meant to our existence - because (for better for worse) some of us, never seem to stop caring.

Somehow the caring grows more important now. And maybe our mothers (living or gone to the hereafter) would call all of this, "Mushy"? There are an incredible number of lonely hearts out there. What a shame when a LOVE dies.

What a shame.

(An offering to friends, from friends...)

Gettin' a Life?

If what others think of you is a constant source of worry, take heart in knowing that they rarely ever do.

Don't be where you're not!

Welcome, but not wanted.
Here, a Good person is both.
I won't be where I'm not.

Who loves you dearly?

With respect to "betrayals of trust"...

Something I've learned through my many hard knocks (when dealing with the people I have loved, or love):

Trust is rather misunderstood, Me Thinks. We like to believe that we can "trust" others. But trust doesn't necessarily mean that people aren't also human; nor that they don't have their own ongoing "issues" - sometimes they do "things", and they do hurt us.

Trust instead, needs to be focused on ourselves - so that we may trust (remain assured) that we can always be resilient - whenever others reveal their humanity in unexpected (perhaps unwelcome, and sometimes hurtful) ways...

Look in the mirror, my friend - that is where TRUST is the most deserved.

People will always do and say whatever they will.

Isn't life just full of surprises?
(Thoughts shared by cousin, Annie!)

Revolutionary Roads?

Not all who wander, are lost.

Freedom comes to she and/or he who, rethink(s) the thunk...
Me Thinks

H-u-m-i-l-i-t-y

Humility makes one great, and honorable twice (it directs our best thoughts to favor others, in lieu of one's self).

Never give up, Never give up, Never give up!

Happy Father's Day!
To all the Dads
(And other unsung heros AKA, meritorious Step-Dads)...

See [link]:
Every Day is Father's Day

WI State Governor underwrites "Me Thinks", thinking.
See [links]:

2009 Wisconsin State Fatherhood Week

Official Gubernatorial Proclamation

From the White House, about Responsible Parenthood...
See [link]:

On the 100th anniversary of Father's Day.

Every day is Father's Day - yes, it takes a MAN to be a Dad!